Heavy Logix.

Lateral Thoughts on Life.

Tiger’s Wood and 18 Holes.

There’s nothing funny about Domestic Violence but I do think that the comedians, like those on Saturday Night Live and Wanda Sykes, got the recent Tiger Woods story more accurately than the News channels did.

It seems more plausible to me that Tiger was being whopped by his wife and running for his life than the news reports that said that he just crashed and was rescued by his wife who smashed his rear window with a golf club to take him out of the car.

We’ll probably never know the full story but someone was discussing the whole incident with me and she made an interesting comment.

She said that the amount of women Tiger has shows that he has some kind of mental problem and that it would have been better if he had had one serious woman on the side. Her comment totally surprised me but I couldn’t quite put my finger on why at the time. It sounded logical enough, less affairs means less betrayal right ?

Later that week on Facebook another lady I know wrote an interesting blog about Emotional Betrayal and how much it hurts yadda, yadda, yadda. I remember thinking to myself that no man would ever have wrote about Emotional Betrayal without mentioning Sexual Betrayal first. Suddenly I realized what I found jarring about my other good friend’s comments.

I realized that the average man is more affected by Sexual Betrayal than Emotional Betrayal. Women are exactly the opposite usually.

Basically it’s another one of the many areas in which men and women differ.

Should the toilet seat be left up or down ?

We all agree that you should not cheat.

However I think men are more worried about the Sexual aspect of cheating than the Emotional.

If you are in a marraige or long term relationship would you prefer that your partner is suddenly discovered to be cheating on you with several people, none of whom have a deep emotional attachment with them, or would you prefer to discover that they are having a long-term deeply emotional affair with one person ?

The interesting thing is I believe most Women will answer this question differently from most Men.

Most men would prefer to hear that there’s only one other man, or “Joe Grind”, since that means less sexual betrayal. Most women would
prefer to face less emotional betrayal, as many “floozy” type affairs would suggest, than to hear that there’s another woman who their guy might actually love.

We all agree that cheating is bad and of course the Emotional and Sexual Betrayals can overlap or transform from one to the other but where there is a distinction I definitely think that men and women are going to react differently.

So in conclusion I’d like to make a startling and original announcement ;

Men are  from Mars and Women are from Venus.

Bet y’all didn’t know that !

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December 8, 2009 - Posted by | blog, current news, humor, non fiction, Psychology, writing | , , , , , , ,

3 Comments »

  1. This is actually pretty good insight about one of the many differences between men and women. I totally agree with the fact that when it comes to affairs (and many other situations in life) we see things mostly from the emotional side first and then we rationalize it. Guys on the other hand are more into rationalizing first and then they measure the situation by how much it affects their ego.

    Comment by sunshine | December 15, 2009 | Reply

  2. I do not think any cheating is correct whether it be sexual/emotional. If you want to have fun with others outside of your committed relationship – you may not be ready for one. The Tiger Woods drama that unraveled in the media is just sad. Surely it would be better if he had a sexual relationship with one mistress on the side but the great golfer had to have it with over 20 women. Cheating habits may be hereditary after all.

    Comment by Corve DaCosta | December 21, 2009 | Reply

  3. Thanx for your comments Corve. Actually something you said reminds me of a documentary I saw once called “Sperm Wars” hopefully I can get to watch that again and I’ll surely blog about it if I do. It addressed the issue of cheating from a Biological point of view rather than religious or moral one. Quite an interesting topic methinks.

    Comment by heavylogix | December 31, 2009 | Reply


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